Helping Your Child Recover From Sexual Abuse
Written by Caren Adams & Jennifer Fay
The sexual abuse of a child creates a devastating family crisis. Parents want to know what to do and say to help their child, both immediately and in the long term. Helping your Child Recover from Sexual Abuse offers practical guidance for parents who courageously face the days and months after a child’s abuse. Written in a positive, reassuring jargon-free style, it discusses each stage of a child’s recovery. Information for parents appears on the left-hand pages; sample conversations and activities for parent and child together are on the right-hand pages. The book presents the collective wisdom of numerous parents who have been through this experience and have learned how to help their children feel stronger, safer, braver, more lovable, worthwhile, and competent. Topics covered: What to do when abuse is first disclosed; Helping a child cope with the legal system; Responding to the reactions of friends and loved ones; Children’s reactions to abuse; How parents and children grieve differently; Rebuilding a child’s self-esteem; Dealing with confusion about sexuality; Helping a child feel safe and in control; Typical problems at different ages; Recognizing when a child is getting better.
Dibs In Search of Self: The Renowned, Deeply Moving Story of an Emotionally Lost Child Who Found His Way Back
Written by Virginia M. Axline
The classic of child therapy. Dibs will not talk. He will not play. He has locked himself in a very special prison. And he is alone. This is the true story of how he learned to reach out for the sunshine, for life . . . how he came to the breathless discovery of himself that brought him back to the world of other children.
Beginning to Heal: A First Book for Men and Women Who Where Sexually Abused As Children
Written by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
Beginning to Heal offers hope and guidance for all survivors starting the healing journey. No matter how great your pain today, you can not only heal but thrive. Based on the authors’ bestseller The Courage to Heal, this Revised Edition of Beginning to Heal takes you through the key stages of the healing process, from crisis times to breaking the silence, grief, and anger, to resolution and moving on. It includes inspirational highlights, clear explanations, practical suggestions, and compelling accounts of survivors’ pain, their strength, and their triumphs
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
Written by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a child—and to those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible.
Weaving together personal experience with professional knowledge, the authors provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, and support throughout the healing process. Readers will feel recognized and encouraged by hundreds of moving first-person stories drawn from interviews and the authors’ extensive work with survivors, both nationally and internationally.
When Your Child Has Been Molested: A Parent’s Guide to Healing and Recovery
Written by Kathryn Brohl with Joyce Case Potter
This is the thoroughly revised and updated edition of the best-selling guide for families of children who have been molested. First published in 1988, this new edition includes current research and information on the nature and effects of molestation on boys and girls, as well as proven techniques for therapy, healing, and recovery. Using everyday language, the authors provide information, comfort, and advice on how to put the pieces back together again after a child has been sexually molested
Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children
Written by Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson
Growing Up Again offers further guidance on providing children with the structure and nurturing that are so critical to their healthy development — and to our own. Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson provide the information every adult caring for children should know — about ages and stages of development, ways to nurture our children and ourselves, and tools for personal and family growth. This new edition also addresses the special demands of parenting adopted children and the problem of overindulgence; a recognition and exploration of prenatal life and our final days as unique life stages; new examples of nurturing, structuring, and discounting, as well as concise ways to identify them; help for handling parenting conflicts in blended families, and guidelines on supporting children’s spiritual growth
Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child
Written by Laura Davis
Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners’ most important questions.
The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
Written by Laura Davis
In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process.
Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)
Written by Gavin de Becker
All parents face the same challenges when it comes to their children’s safety: whom to trust, whom to distrust, what to believe, what to doubt, what to fear, and what not to fear. In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the nation’s leading expert on predicting violent behavior and author of the monumental bestseller The Gift of Fear, offers practical new steps to enhance children’s safety at every age level, giving you the tools you need to allow your kids freedom without losing sleep yourself. With daring and compassion, he shatters the widely held myths about danger and safety and helps parents find some certainty about life’s highest-stakes questions
Ghosts in The Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors
Written by Ken Graber
Although the impact of incest or sexual abuse can destroy relationships and test long-standing commitments, the information in this book may be the key to holding your relationship together through the journey to recovery. Ghosts in the Bedroom provides comfort and guidance for partners in the process of recovery. Graber draws from personal experience to show how partners can accept responsibility for their own issues, support the recovery of the incest or sexual abuse survivor and work toward solving relationship problems together.
Outgrowing The Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children
Written by Eliana Gil, Ph.D.
Outgrowing the Pain is an important book for any adult who was abused or neglected in childhood. It’s an important book for professionals who help others. It’s a book of questions that can pinpoint and illuminate destructive patterns. The answers you discover can lead to a life filled with new insight, hope, and love.
Understanding Your Child’s Sexual Behavior: What’s Normal and Healthy
Written by Toni Cavanagh Johnson, Ph.D.
Describes healthy childhood sexual behaviors and contrasts them with sexual behaviors that signal a need for concern or intervention. While focus is mainly on problematic sexual behaviors, there is more in-depth information on normal childhood sexual behaviors than is usually found in one place. Covers natural and healthy behaviors, understanding children’s sexual exploration, characteristics and causes of problematic behavior, and how to decrease problem behaviors, and devotes much material to dispelling myths about child sexual abuse and children’s developing sexuality. The author is a clinical psychologist in private practice.
No Ordinary Life: Parenting the Sexually Abused Child and Adolescent
Written by Sandy Knauer, LCSW
No Ordinary Life: Parenting the Sexually Abused Child and Adolescent was written for parents, caregivers, survivors of abuse, counselors, and therapists to understand the special needs of the population of sexually abused children. It will help caregivers especially to establish appropriate expectations and sexual boundaries of the young people in their care. This book includes topic-specific subjects such as identifying the signs of sexual abuse in children; what to do when abuse is suspected or disclosed; how to deal with eating disorders, self-mutilation, and acting out behaviors; and disciplining the abused child or adolescent. There are also chapters speaking directly to adult survivors of sexual abuse that deal with healing from past abuse, ways to break the family cycle of incest, and how to start a survivor¹s group. Sandra Knauer offers hopefulness for healing in families suffering with abuse issues and treating sexual abuse in a multigenerational setting.
Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: A Parents’ Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy, and Resilience
Written by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline
The number of anxious, depressed, hyperactive and withdrawn children is staggering—and still growing! Millions have experienced bullying, violence (real or in the media), abuse or sexual molestation. Many other kids have been traumatized from more “ordinary” ordeals such as terrifying medical procedures, accidents, loss and divorce. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids sends a lifeline to parents who wonder how they can help their worried and troubled children now. It offers simple but powerful tools to keep children safe from danger and to help them “bounce back” after feeling scared and overwhelmed. No longer will kids have to be passive prey to predators or the innocent victims of life’s circumstances.In addition to arming parents with priceless protective strategies, best-selling authors Dr. Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline offer an antidote to trauma and a recipe for creating resilient kids no matter what misfortune has besieged them. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids is a treasure trove of simple-to-follow “stress-busting,” boundary-setting, sensory/motor-awareness activities that counteract trauma’s effect on a child’s body, mind and spirit. Including a chapter on how to navigate the inevitable difficulties that arise during the various ages and stages of development, this ground-breaking book simplifies an often mystifying and complex subject, empowering parents to raise truly confident and joyful kids despite stressful and turbulent times.
In Love and In Danger
Written by Berrie Levy, MSW
With one out of eleven high school students in the past year experiencing some form of physical abuse — being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend — young adults need to know where they can turn for help. Even more teens (as high as ninety-six percent) reported emotional and psychological abuse in their relationships.
This revised and updated edition for teenagers who have questions about abusive dating relationships helps them understand the causes and consequences of their situation, learn what they can do about it, find help from parents and other adults, and discover how to build healthier relationships. In Love and in Danger is one of the only books available on dating violence and abusive relationships that addresses young adults directly in a straightforward and non-condescending manner. Included are facts about dating violence, tips for how to tell if your relationship is abusive, information on why dating abuse happens, and what you can do if you are being abused by (or are abusing) someone you love. Packed with practical advice and compelling interviews with teens, this edition features updated information and statistics, an expanded resource section, and a new afterword by the author.
What Parents Need to Know about Dating Violence
Written by Berrie Levy and Patricia Occhiuzzo Giggans
Offering information, advice, and real-life stories from parents and teens, a guide to dealing with dating violence discusses how to teach teens to protect themselves and build healthy relationships, describes resources available, and addresses special situations.
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse
Written by Mike Lew
The first book written specifically for men, Victims No Longer examines the changing cultural attitudes toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. Now, in this Second Edition, this invaluable resource continues to offer compassionate and practical advice, supported by personal anecdotes and statements of male survivors. Victims No Longer helps survivors to: Identify and validate their childhood experiences, explore strategies of survival and healing, work through issues such as trust, intimacy, and sexual confusion, establish a support network for continued personal recovery, and make choices that aren’t determined by abuse
The Date Rape Prevention Book: The Essential Guide for Girls and Women
Written by Scott Lindquist
The Date Rape Prevention Book is a proactive source of information essential for girls and women to safeguard themselves. Being armed with information is a woman’s best defense. These pages look at when and where date rape happens, what turns an ordinary man into a rapist and the three ingredients in most acquaintance rapes.
In non-judgmental terms, the book explores the roles of drugs and alcohol, tells women what to do if they are confronted and provides communication techniques and physical maneuvers that do not require martial arts training to help women escape an escalating situation.
Healing the Harm Done: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Your Child Overcome the Effects of Sexual Abuse (English and Spanish Edition)
Written by Jennifer Y. Levy-Peck, Ph.D.
Dr. Jennifer Y. Levy-Peck, an experienced psychologist, wrote this book to help parents whose children have been sexually abused. As the parent or caregiver of a child who has suffered abuse, you will find useful information and valuable resources to help your child to heal. Healing The Harm Done will help you to deal with your own reactions and concerns as well. The book gives practical advice on handling your child’s behaviors and emotions, and will guide you in finding appropriate professional help if needed. The question-and-answer format makes it easy to find the advice you need. Both English and Spanish versions are included in this one volume.
The Difference Maker: Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset
Written by John C. Maxwell
Leadership expert John C. Maxwell says the difference maker is attitude. For those who have ever wondered what may be separating them from achieving the kind of personal and professional success they’ve always dreamt of, Dr. Maxwell has some words of insight: “Your attitude colors every aspect of your life. It is like the mind’s paintbrush.” In The Difference Maker, Maxwell shatters common myths about attitude-what it can do for you and what it can’t. Showing you how to overcome the five biggest attitude obstacles, Dr. Maxwell teaches the skills you need to make attitude your biggest asset. Most importantly, you’ll learn not only how to develop an attitude that will have a tremendous impact on career, family, and daily living, but also how to maintain that attitude for the rest of your life.
Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness, A Memoir
Written by Erin Merryn
Fans of Erin Merryn’s heart-wrenching debut memoir Stolen Innocence were left wondering what would become of an emotionally fragile Erin after her confrontation with the reality and repercussions of being a child of incest and molestation. In Living for Today, Erin chronicles how she cultivated the strength to face her abuser and eventually found relief from years of emotional restlessness, while also igniting the beginnings of a new fearless journey. Living for Today chronicles that journey, which began with the unearthing of private shame, releasing of ugly memories, letting go of guilt, and becoming the mouthpiece of millions of her generation.
A Mother’s Nightmare – Incest: A Practical Legal Guide for Parents and Professionals
Written by John E.B. Myers
When parents – usually mothers – try to protect their children from sexual abuse, they can be devastated to find that support from the legal system is not always there. Suspecting their husbands or partners of the abuse, mothers may seek a divorce and custody or, if already divorced, request withdrawal of visitation rights. However, if unable to prove abuse, a mother can be labeled ‘hysterical’ and her desperate efforts to secure her child’s safety may jeopardize her case – and even result in the suspected perpetrator being granted custody of the child. Addressing this troubling issue, this book provides parents and professionals with the necessary information to protect themselves against a legal system backfire.
Windows to Our Children: A Gestalt Therapy Approach to Children and Adolescents
Written by Violet Oaklander Ph.D.
With over 300 pages of methods, materials, techniques for working with children and adolescents, transcripts, case examples and discussion, this book filled a void in the child therapy literature. Counselors and therapists, in schools, mental health centers and private practice embrace this book. It is the largest selling book on the subject in the world.
Child Sexual Abuse: Disclosure, Delay, and Denial
Written by Margaret-Ellen Pipe, Michael E. Lamb, Yael Orbach, and Ann-Christin Cederborg
This volume provides the first rigorous assessment of the research relating to the disclosure of childhood sexual abuse, along with the practical and policy implications of the findings. Leading researchers and practitioners from diverse and international backgrounds offer critical commentary on these previously unpublished findings gathered from both field and laboratory research. Cross-cultural, clinical, and multi-disciplinary perspectives are provided. The goal is to learn more about why children frequently remain silent about their abuse, deny it, or if they do disclose, do so belatedly and incompletely, often recanting their allegations over time.
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
Written by Mary Pipher, Ph.D.
Everybody who has survived adolescence knows what a scary, tumultuous, exciting time it is. But if we use memories of our experiences to guide our understanding of what today’s girls are living through, we make a serious mistake. Our daughters are living in a new world. Reviving Ophelia is a call to arms from Dr. Mary Pipher, a psychologist who has worked with teenagers for more than a decade, and offers parents compassion, strength, and strategies with which to revive our girls’ lost sense of self.
Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood
Written by William Pollack Ph.D.
Based on William Pollack’s groundbreaking research at Harvard Medical School over two decades, Real Boys explores this generation’s “silent crisis”: why many boys are sad, lonely, and confused although they may appear tough, cheerful, and confident. Pollack challenges conventional expectations about manhood and masculinity that encourage parents to treat boys as little men, raising them through a toughening process that drives their true emotions underground. Only when we understand what boys are really like, says Pollack, can we help them develop more self-confidence and the emotional savvy they need to deal with issues such as depression, love and sexuality, drugs and alcohol, divorce, and violence.
Evicting the Perpetrator: A Male Survivor’s Guide to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse
Written by Ken Singer, MSW
A Male Survivor’s Guide to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse. This new book for male survivors offers a unique perspective about moving past the ways abusers can control a survivor’s life for years after the abuse. Through exercises and assignments, survivors will learn how to retake control of their lives. Ken Singer offers clear insights and useful advice about how to support a victim’s recovery. Professionals working with survivors (and perpetrators who were sexually abused) and their families will find this a useful addition to their library.
Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain
Edited by Marion F. Solomon and Daniel .J Siegel
As we move into the third millennium, the field of mental health is in an exciting position to bring together diverse ideas from a range of disciplines that illuminate our understanding of human experience: neurobiology, developmental psychology, traumatology, and systems theory. The contributors emphasize the ways in which the social environment, including relationships of childhood, adulthood, and the treatment milieu change aspects of the structure of the brain and ultimately alter the mind.
Nurturing Good Children Now: 10 Basic Skills to Protect and Strengthen Your Child’s Core Self
Written by Dr. Ron Taffel with Melinda Blau
In these difficult, sometimes violent, times, how can we nurture children who are both good and happy? How can we help them stay safe, be respectful, and reach their full potential? Nurturing Good Children Now outlines precisely what is important to foster in our kids, and how to raise children who have a deep sense of values and an enthusiastic spirit. The most essential traits that children need to thrive in today’s world are: mood mastery, expressiveness, peer smarts, body comfort, team intelligence, respect, passion, focus, caution, gratitude.
This compassionate book offers unflinching social commentary, the latest research on child development, and practical advice. We can protect our children’s sense of integrity. We can teach them to love learning; to hold onto their passion; to be comfortable with their bodies; to get along with their peers without succumbing to peer pressure; and to manage their emotions. We can nurture good children now, and, for a better future, we must.
The Second Family: Dealing with Peer Power, Pop Culture, The Wall of Silence – and Other Challenges of Raising Today’s Teens
Written by Dr. Ron Taffel with Melinda Blau
If you have a teen or pre-teen, you recognize the phenomenon already-perhaps without even knowing it has a name. “The second family,” as uncompromisingly described by renowned therapist Dr. Ron Taffel is the immense collective power of the peer group and pop culture-a force so pervasive, it threatens to, and often succeeds in, overwhelming the first family of adults at home and in school. Derived from thousands of interviews with kids and adults, The Second Family uses real-life, sometimes graphic examples to bare the truth about the world of adolescence today and to illuminate the new set of rules by which kids operate.
The Sum of My Parts: A Survivors Story of Dissociative Identity Disorder
Written by Olga R. Trujillo
By the first day of kindergarten, Olga Trujillo had already survived years of abuse and violent rape at the hands of her tyrannical father. Over the next ten years, she would develop the ability to numb herself to the constant abuse by splitting into distinct mental “parts.” Dissociative identity disorder (DID) had begun to take hold, protecting Olga’s mind from the tragic realities of her childhood.
In The Sum of My Parts, Olga reveals her life story for the first time, chronicling her heroic journey from survivor to advocate and her remarkable recovery from DID. Formerly known as multiple personality disorder, DID is defined by the presence of two or more identities. In this riveting story, Olga struggles to unearth memories from her childhood, and parallel identities—Olga at five years old, Olga at thirteen—come forth and demand to be healed. This brave, unforgettable memoir charts the author’s triumph over the most devastating conditions and will inspire anyone whose life has been affected by trauma.
Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse
Written by Sandy K. Wurtele and Feather Berkower
Sexual abuse of children is a very real danger, from big cities to rural towns. But by following the practical advice in Off Limits, parents and teachers responsible for the safety and welfare of children – from toddlers to teens – can make their children’s worlds much safer. The book, written by two leading experts on sexual abuse prevention, gives an understanding of what child sexual abuse is; who sexually abuses children; how to recognize warning signs that someone may be sexually abusing a child; how and where abusers gain sexual access to children; now abusers keep their victims quiet; how to help a child who has been sexually abused; how to help a child who is abusing other children; and how to keep children safe from abuse.
Prozac Nation: Young and Depressed in America, A Memoir
Written by Elizabeth Wurtzel
Elizabeth Wurtzel writes with her finger on the faint pulse of an overdiagnosed generation whose ruling icons are Kurt Cobain, Xanax, and pierced tongues. Her famous memoir of her bouts with depression and skirmishes with drugs, Prozac Nation is a witty and sharp account of the psychopharmacology of an era for readers of Girl, Interrupted and Sylvia Plath’s The Bell Jar.
Transcending: Reflections of Crime Victims
Written by Howard Zehr
Howard Zehr presents the portraits and the courageous stories of 39 victims of violent crime in Transcending: Reflections of Crime Victims. Many of these people were twice-wounded: once at the hands of an assailant; the second time by the courts, where there is no legal provision for a victim’s participation. “My hope,” says Zehr, “is that this book might hand down a rope to others who have experienced such tragedies and traumas, and that it might allow all who read it to live on the healing edge.”